This is a fantastic idea. I really love the decentralization of Lemmy, but I do feel the side effects of having many copies of the same subject on different instances.

And to your point, I’d love for niche communities to have a larger audience. I need somewhere to post and read about project zomboid.

I think they’re actually referring to Trump in this situation

I’ve got a girlfriend, and she is so blue

I feel like this person shouldn’t be allowed to drive…

Those plants don’t need coffee, they need electrolytes.

This is the kinda selfless attitude the world needs.

Thanks for delivering!

Can you share it now?

Why is the onus on everyone else? Generally speaking, I believe that if something is making someone upset/hurt, it’s on them to let the other person know that. Without deep, intimate knowledge of the other person (and honestly, even with that level of relationship), it’s hard to know when something that is ok to you is completely offensive to the other person.

And just for emphasis, this is my belief in general - not just in the context of misgendering trans peeps. I feel like it’s not fair to stay mad at someone for crossing a line they didn’t even know existed. I’ve applied this mentality to my marriage, and it’s honestly done wonders for improving my relationship with my husband and has opened up so much room for honest communication and building respect/trust in each other.

But there are so many different types of people in the world. How is someone expected to know that something is specifically offensive to one person, unless that person tells them?

I habitually refer to everyone as “dude”, but I certainly would stop calling someone “dude” if they asked me to stop. I know a lot of people feel the same way that I do, so please let it be known if you’re uncomfortable with certain terms. Sure, there are people that are going to be total assholes about it, but I’d say that’s a great indicator to steer clear of that person.

Yeah, no. Glad that it’s worked out for you (so far), but it doesn’t always work out for everyone. I agree that you shouldn’t be aggressive and standoffish, but you sure as fuck should not trust the cops. All they’ve shown is that they are a gang that believe they’re above the law. They’re out to protect and serve each other — not us.

Nah, I’ve certainly had a few reflective moments where I realized my missed opportunities. The reality is, unless you’re really confident and self-possessed, it’s hard to put yourself out there. So I can understand why these guys didn’t just spell it out for me, cause they likely weren’t sure I was into them. And on my end, I always struggled with low self-esteem, so I just assumed that these attractive guys weren’t actually into me and were just being nice/good friends.

Anyways, I’m glad your girlfriend is an exception to the rule.

82.4°f is pretty decent weather. Unlivable is more like 100°f+, hence the “100% hot” scale. Nice weather would be 75°f, which makes sense when you think of it in terms of the “0-100% hot” scale.

I agree that other things like distance, volume, etc are better in metric. I really wish the US would just standardize metric UOM in general. But I do think fahrenheit is better for temperature.

One of my top 5 personal rules is that I never look at what time it is if the amount of sleep I’m getting is part of the equation. I set my alarm for whatever time I must be awake, and otherwise, I wanna be left alone. Ignorance is bliss.