I don’t think it’s possible to have a significant impact on transphobia on the internet purely via debate and text. I do think it’s very possible to have a substantial impact in real life just be being a visible trans person out in public life interacting with people.

A lot of people have never once in their life had a conversation with a trans person. It’s a lot harder to weaponize someone’s existence when they become a fixture in your life. It also gives you an opportunity to occasionally share some of your struggle with people and educate them in a more direct way, but I think the former is often more valuable.

You feel like this because it’s an incredibly unhealthy way to live and an utter waste of human potential. Stop doing it.

Huh? I mean buildings get condemned or rebuilt sometimes, but talk like that tells me you haven’t been to Boston or New York.

You’re literally asking for the ‘average’ of a country containing everything from desert to tundra to a variety of types of forest and just about every biome in between. We’ve got political situations ranging from state endorsed persecution and torture of minorities on the one hand to policies that are at times to the left of the European mainstream on the other.

You might as well compare Norway and Turkey as Massachusetts and Texas. In the latter case they share a federal government, but both also ignore that government when it suits them. Like, look at the confusing legal situation around marijuana in the US. It’s legal in more and more states, but it’s federally illegal. So like, technically it’s federally illegal in states where it’s legal, but we just ignore that for most purposes. It does mean that dispensaries largely have to operate with cash, though.

In Massachusetts it’s even weirder. We have a ballot initiative process, so the people can make new laws by making a big enough petition and putting it on the next election ballot. That’s how we passed decriminalization, then medical, then legalization. No Massachusetts politician really took up the issue and endorsed it, we just voted it in. Which forced our state law makers to basically ignore the federal prohibition.

You could also expect to see this happen in Massachusetts if, for example, abortion were federally criminalized. We already ignore other states’ laws about things like family planning and immigration.

The US really isn’t a monolith legally or culturally.

Stop fighting your body and find a night job.

Damn right, because I don’t pick up.

“I hate talking on the phone and won’t pick up, text me.” also often works.

I feel like my cold brewed espresso with dark chocolate oatmilk says: “mmm”.

I hate bald boys.

Whenever I see a bald boy, I feel like I’m back in the pants.