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  • I just got into my first poly relationship with two other trans girls and they were a couple before me. Feels perfectly fine and natural so far even if I was fiercely mono before transitioning and they even talk about moving in together without me. I totally get that’s not for everyone and I certainly couldn’t have handled it in the past.

    That said, I have no idea where this is going or if it’s a good idea in the long run. Embracing the unknown because I’ve always rolled like that. Pain is temporary and chicks dig scars kind of a deal. Do chicks dig emotional scars too? How about guys since I’m pan? 😅

    To be a bit more serious, I think you probably need to have a pretty strong sense of self worth if poly is going to work for you. Not sure I fit that description precisely, but I feel a lot better about myself than I did before so I’m cautiously optimistic.









  • katja@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneFirst pass rule
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    2 months ago

    I’ve had more luck on Hinge than on Taimi, but that may be a regional thing. I’m on greed too, but that is about as dead as it gets. I paid for six months right off the bat without even checking the app too closely first. Mistake. Also, greed is such a bad name.

    I’m on “Her” too, but I’ve drifted more towards guys lately so I’m not using it much.



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    2 months ago

    Yes, I realize that now. I assumed that it was blindingly obvious and I did indicate I’m trans, both in the text and as my gender. Seems the freeloaders don’t see any text or even info before a match so some visual aid is probably warranted, like a trans pride flag or something.