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  • Are you ok? Literally most of the people who are pissed at Musk being a welfar queen were just as pissed at Biden for being a weak centrist about the whole thing. Anyone even slightly to the left has been going after Elon for years.

    That country has next to zero nuance available come election day. You can’t just say everyone who’s against the obvious fascist was therefore all-in on Biden. If they had a better option they would have taken it. Well, I suppose you can say that stuff if you aren’t paying attention or acting in good faith.


  • Soup@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldBlahaj is wild
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    6 days ago

    It’s true that we all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity but we equally have understand how much easier that is for one group compared to the other. Us cis people have all the power, and trans people are basically forced to exist in a constant state of fight-or-flight.

    I remember the kind of person I allowed myself to become when I spent 40hrs a week at a job that didn’t value me. I was overly defensive even outside of work, and my self-esteem was already crappy enough, and this led to judging others too harshly as well. I didn’t even have space to fully recognize that my now ex-girlfriend really did care for me and didn’t have the patience to realize that she was going through exactly the same shit. And that was just my job! Imagine if nearly every waking moment made you constantly ready for a confrontation.

    I was ultimately let go because I “wasn’t a good fit”. What really happened was that people with more power than me were mad that I didn’t kiss the ring. I wasn’t mean, but I made the mistake of thinking these people were different because on the face of it they really did seem better. I thought it was safe to talk to them about pay and they led with gaslighting me and trying to devalue me, and any attempt to push back was “rude” and they had the gall to say “I don’t know why you feel you can’t talk to us about stuff”.

    Now bring that into this space and you can see how unbalanced everything is. Of course we feel safe around them, we have all the power, and we have to understand that it’s not the same in the other direction. Just being trusted enough to be allowed to be present is a fucking honour we should be proud of.


  • Soup@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldBlahaj is wild
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    6 days ago

    Yea, it’s like going to a christian household for dinner and eating before grace. They don’t expect you to participate in the prayer but the least you can do is not start eating before they’re ready in their own home. And if they do a little grace for themselves while at your house you leave them alone. Sure it’s a little weird to sit their with a bowed head while they leave their magic diety a voicemail but it’s not harmful and they aren’t asking you to convert in order to eat supper.

    The same can be said for being even vaguely accommodating for a vegan friend who’s visiting and not making them feel like they aren’t allowed to eat. They won’t stop you eating meat and the least you can do is make sure that forks for meat and vegetables remain separate.


  • Soup@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldBlahaj is wild
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    6 days ago

    I have several trans friends these days and two of them were friends all the way back in highschool, in a different city. They’ve recently found themselves distant from one another because there is a clash in ideologies.

    One lays lower, goes about their business, and goes to queer events and all that stuff, though they’re still out there visibly trans. The other is very much an activist and will straight up yell at people on the street, I hear, and protests they organize have had at least one physical clash, to my knowledge. I can’t blame either of them, really, for the caution in these volatile times or the aggression when they’re pretty much the only group of people reliably standing up for their rights. The specific issue that came up was a whole thing, but suffice it to say there was a disagreement on tactics similar to what you mentioned.

    Ultimately I think the no interaction thing is not a bad play. Allies or no, we aren’t them and while some communication is good sometimes it’s important to be reminded that we’ve entered someone else’s space. Not only someone else’s space, but space belonging to people who are constantly harrassed and feeling cornered just by existing and who will understably defend what little they do have with a maybe…overzealous approach. By the stories here are they handling it well? God no, that sounds wild, but my point still stands.

    It goes for any margainalized group, I suppose, that by nature of being pushed aside one lives in a world where they must speak multiple “languages” and learn about how to live in more than one way. They end up generally being better people for it, but that doesn’t at all mean that every single one is better. For all the supportive, kind, and otherwise chill trans people there are still a very small handful who do things like forget who their allies are or even who go way off the deep-end and support the GOP or whatever equalivalent in their country.






  • Yea, like even as a dude I’ll be in different situations where I can see someone uncomfortable who doesn’t feel like they can say no. The best friend, the person nearby, or the cousin who the family already thinks is weird can all step in to stop a variety of weirdos or even just a relative being shitty at the dinner table.

    Crushes happen over time, if they were into it they wouldn’t let their friend get in the way and if they did you should probably want to date someone with some better boundaries.




  • Soup@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldTotal sense
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    1 month ago

    Shopping schedule? Bro life is hard and busy, plenty of people are struggling with all kinds of issues that they can’t easily schedule around and depression is it’s own beast.

    Look, I don’t order food because of the price and because I don’t want to support that fucked up business model(also because I live in a walkable city) but, and I mean this in the most “I hope you take this as an opportunity to reflect” kinda way, go fuck off with that shit.



  • Soup@lemmy.worldtoMemes@lemmy.mlAn oldie but a goodie
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    2 months ago

    Except for day’s you’re sick, stuck inside, etc. Then when you get older the walking would be harder but you still gotta breathe. Plus you can still work any job you’d like since people do like to keep busy, and since it’d probably be more of a passion thing you might be hyper-focused and forget to get your walking in for the day. All the stuff I’d be doing wouldn’t have too much walking involved.

    I’d take breath, it’s already more money than I could ever spend so why not make it passive?



  • Soup@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldInnovation
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    2 months ago

    Oh don’t forget that many innovations don’t come to the surface until companies have gotten their money out of the old ones. We miss out on a lot of technology for years because of that. And then there’s tooling changes leading to companies saying “what the fuck are you gunna do about it?” as they all keep making the same old crap. Sony had to invent the litium-ion battery for their cameras because all the battery companies were fine with making the old lead-acid stuff.

    Capitalism doesn’t drive innovation, it gives into it when it absolutely has to but would prefer to not have to do anything new. New is expensive, and so the very idea of innovation is counter to capitalism’s goals.



  • Soup@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneShush Rule
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    The Christian baddies that will hold that against you won’t fuck you unless you marry them and you do not want to get involved in that. Good news though, if you go for it anyway, is that you only have to date them for 4-6 months before they’ll accept a proposal.