Doesn’t surprise me.

You guys are doing good Fr.

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You can’t determine if someone has schizophrenia, or much of anyone else by measuring their skull.

The Germans sterilized 75% of their people diagnosed as schizophrenics in the early 20th century, which explains a lot about Germany now actually. Little sense of humor, a complete inability to not trust the state, less religion. Low on creativity and innovation. The less religion is nice in modern times with superpacs being funded by anti abortion activists, but all the other stuff is a net negative.

Well I wrote a long response but I couldn’t post it. Maybe I can reply later when I’m not busy with work.

Google really sucks now for some reason. It used to be much better.

Fair enough, you sound like a good one anyways. Best of luck

I am similar, I grew up with a great deal of that and I barely ever use it for my kids. I actually have a fair bit of trauma and PTSD because my father was an alcoholic and very mean. I never use it anymore I did a little when they were toddlers to get them to do stuff like not pee in the bed, to not leave trash laying around, to not be disrespectful. I had a severe concussion when I was raising them in that phase and I couldn’t handle the yelling because it would trigger massive migraines. I understand most people who use it do ruin their kids with it, and most people who use it are really trashy parents who are arrogant and have bad morality, but really the point in trying to make is that it’s very healthy for a kid to learn how to deal with the emotion of fear and to experience it a bit. This is something the modern world doesn’t realize as much. It helps them to focus. It’s a very narrow window of course. Fear is a strong work and don’t want you to think that I mean your kid should be terrified of you, but they should learn to have respect to feel a bit of consequences to get past that basic part where their higher mind can take control. Their fear needs to be able to calm their mind. I think of it as two pillars that lean against each other creating an arch, your positive and negative emotions. That is a really complicated way of saying, the only thing spanking is good for, is to teach a kid to stop, think, and listen, anything beyond that is abuse imo. You really need to talk to them and explain, not just preach, but back and forth about why something is right or wrong. Tell them about your life and what you have to deal with. Ask them what they think. Ask them how they feel about it. Let them be honest, let them have autonomy where you can. Being safe and respectful is important but beyond that you don’t own your child and your child doesn’t need to be molded by you as a parent. They need to bloom into their own type of flower. That is what actually makes them a highly motivated person.

It works good for me because I completely support my kids autonomy. I want them to have their own style, their own desires, their own preferences, I want them to be themselves. I don’t police their sexuality or what video games or movies they can watch. What clothes they can buy. I do forbid them from some things of course. Hanging out with people who do drugs is one example. I will talk to them about these things in an adult fashion. I will challenge them and ask them questions about why they are doing something, and ask them to tell me how it makes people around them feel, how it makes them feel. It’s not that they should live their life to please other people, not at all, but to be aware of how their actions affect others. To be aware of other people’s pain and limitations. Talk is best, a respectful adult conversation as equals. A conversation as a friend.

You never want to use physical punishment anymore then you have to, because your child will come to see the world through the lens of a victim. They will never really develop an ability to take pride in themselves and stand up for themselves and to chase their own dreams. Survival becomes their only true friend when they learn to hide themselves from the world.

I mostly agree except for the initial phase of teaching a kid to listen and control themselves. The part of the brain that forces them to sit still and focus doesn’t really develop imo without some fear. I wouldn’t at all advocate for beating your child, but when they are young a little spank sometimes that isn’t that bad seems scary as hell to them. It’s very effective to get them to learn to listen, to stop running around, that sort of thing. After you get past that point you can talk to them, it’s much easier. Also you have to talk to them afterwards so they know you aren’t being mean, but need them to learn to control themselves and not let their emotions take over all the time. If you do it well, you won’t have to do it but a few times. Not intensity, but as little as possible, just so they know that they can’t get away with it. A kid has almost unlimited energy to fight and yell. It’s not good for you, and it’s not good for them. It’s not really normal for an animal to never have any fear. The brain isn’t supposed to work that way. Yet also it’s not good to abuse them obviously. Some people are kind of bad parents and they will use that as an excuse to avoid doing what they should for their kids, like cooking healthy food and stuff. When kids arent eating well or are trapped inside all day they also get restless. That is not the time to be spanking. The one time where spanking is appropriate is simply to make them realize that they can’t just ignore you and walk on you, and that they have to actually talk with you when you are serious. Talking is the part where they learn. They should just learn fear. This will make them depressive and lazy and resentful and psychotic.

Yeah whatever buddas crayon

You wouldnt get so mad if it weren’t true. Your built a psychological wall to protect your sense of self. If you want to be happy you have to do things like sleep well, and obtain independence, not mess with your brain chenistry, and become an adult. If you dont, you will just stay trapped in that mindset forever instead of living life and being happy. I didn’t figure out how to be happy until i was 29. I had to abandon all of my defense melanisms, my ego, and listen to my heart. Follow only what i knew to be true. Eventually I did become happy.

You dont need meatonin to sleep. The more you tell yourself things like that the more you will believe it and the harder it will be to get back to reality. Also just so you know, when you dont sleep enough you mitocondria oxidizes and destroys your cells. This affects you intelligence and your higher thinking. You night just have to take my advice until you can get your brain healthy and understand that what in saying is true. That starts with, cutting out the drugs, the meletonin, getting a job so you have a routine and can sleep once a day, and then, after your brain becomes healthy, or as it is becoming healthy, you can aork through you brain and fix it by thinking and understanding, and you can become independent. Take care of yourself. Have pride in yourself and follow your dreams.

Stop taking melatonin and get a job.

Dont be in a hurry when you get less sleep time goes by faster and the years fly by, but if you sleep alot the days are slow and easy and the years go by like eons.

That only happens to me, the blocking out, if i get less then like 5 1/2 hours of sleep.

I set an extra alarm at my last time, so if i accidently turn it off I still have a backup.

For me its the opposite and you are only waking up like a 5 seconds to hit snooze, you fall back asleep instantly. You might find yourself going to bed 30 minutes earlier or something but who cares? I dont fight sleep so that helps. I really enjoy my sleep. I also enjoy the morning time now because im super comfortable for like 30 minutes before i go to work as my mind slowly wakes up.

I have been doing it for years and i always wake up easily. It works very well for me. The issue I have is im slow to wake up. Since i decided to try this, I never really had any issue unless i only had a few hours of sleep.

This is a very easy problem to solve, set an alarm 30 minutes before you wake up and snooze it three times, and then you will be awake by the time your actual alarm goes off. If that doesnt work increase to 45m-60m. This way you get to go back to sleep several times before you have to get up. Lets your brain cath up to capitalism. Those 10 minute gaps between snoozes end up feeling like 20-30m each.

This is very close to true after a few years or maybe people who take hrt before puberty but generally most teenagers shouldnt be doing full dose hrt imo. A mild dose it better, it gives them flexability to go either way later in life.

Also there are a few advantages males who have had tedtoterone are going to have, like wider shoulders, denser bones and stuff. Im not against it but its a hard sell for most. Around 2/3rds of americans are against it.