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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Either that or they’re literally too daft to understand why trans people would rather see a hundred people with wEiRd PrOnOuNs who may or may not be trolling than see a single person appointing themselves the pronoun police.

    Like, it’s not showing me anything I didn’t already know, it’s just ugly to see. Not to get on the soapbox too much, but I think medicalization* of transness and the portrayal of the noble suffering trans person as an archetype kind of inevitably leads to this Very Serious interpretation of gender identity that is just as oppressive as Evangelical takes on gender. Sorry if anyone got the wrong impression, but “MTF + FTM + nonbinary are All The Genders” wasn’t actually what anyone involved in trans liberation was ever fighting for. If this makes (general) you mad, go make that your problem instead of mine.

    And I say that as someone that needed surgery and HRT! It will probably actually kill me if HRT gets banned in the US, I’m not saying this as someone with no skin in it. They’re not taking anything from me by existing, and if seeing them makes you go “holy shit we’ve gotta shut this whole trans thing down” then you were always my enemy.

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    That is, treating transness as a medical condition and nothing more, not that any medical treatment for trans people is bad.

















  • Sometimes an animal will become so convinced that traps are a good space (protection from predators and food), that they become what they call ‘trap happy’ and will go into any trap they see. Which is funny but annoying if you’re trying to do a survey or something and one asshole keeps showing up looking for snacks.




  • Someone doesn’t have to be doing things as bad as the transphobes to still be doing something that isn’t ideal, or something that makes other people uncomfortable in a way that has nothing to do with transphobia. It feels bad for anyone to get told they’re doing gender wrong, even if the person doing it is trying to be helpful.

    It doesn’t mean anyone doing that is evil, it just means gender is a messy thing to talk about and understand. People can’t always see that what is very affirming and clarifying for them may be constraining for someone else.


  • Definitely, it’s almost always either someone that’s not quite ready to come out or trans people talking about their pre-transition selves. There is a small minority of people who are very insistent on calling other people eggs and seem to think they’re helping, but really are contributing to an environment with more rigid gender roles.

    It’s unfortunate because a lot of the time I think what they’re really wanting to do is talk about their own experiences and how things clicked together for them, but are way overgeneralizing about it and projecting it onto other people.