They don’t hate women, they just like to dominate.
80% of car accidents here are caused by wreckless driving by guys.
Guys are more dominant, and dominating women is viewed as misogyny.
Do not misunderstand. There’s no hatred for women.
Except in niche cases like my mate that got his heart broken at age 15 when he was fat, then he went on and dated 5 girls at the same time because he didn’t trust them. Then basically kept 1 of them and is now in a long term relationship. The one girl never knowing that he did that.
He was raised by his grandparents/single mother.
His dad went on to have a 2nd family where he wouldn’t be a deadbeat father. So it’s kinda idk… it’s his stuff.
So I guess there can be some hatred for women when it comes to having a broken heart and trust issues. But that’s mostly for young guys.
Hating people is mostly a dumb thing to do, but it’s not always a choice. You get your heart broken, love turns to hate until enough time passes before it can become indifference and you move on.
Racism… 14 year olds are idiots. They segregate themselves by how they look and sound like and start fighting with eachother.
Russia phobia 😎 well, they done fucked up didn’t they?
What else do we have…
Sinophobia… scary government bruv
Western phobia… I’ll let LMs write that one out
Phobia’s a normal thing, gets eliminated by long term communication
As a fat highschooler, ehen, as a fat woman highschooler, i got rejected so many times. Never once did it make me hate and distrust men. Because every person is their own.
I was big growing up because my guardian literally kept me in my room, threw McDonald’s at me and called me a fat bitch. I was allowed to go to school, and go to my room from age 12-16. When he was arrested i lost 60 pounds, gained it back though. Then when i was 21 i lost 80 pounds in 11 months, i worked hard, rode my bike to work.
Then, I got pregnant at 25. Gained for that- but lost it all fast with nursing and maintained healthy weight until the pandemic. I liked hiking, and riding my bike to work, and ate whole foods, i had, had fast food a whole 3 times since i was 21. … until i was 32. My male coworkers ate bk for lunch every day, they were thin, our work was hard (i lifted and packed approx 2000-3000 pounds of material we made a shift), so i started getting Bk too. And i got fat.
The pandemic hit and my now husband got the unemployment, so he ordered restaurant food nearly 5x a week. I left my job to support my kid. I peaked my weight again.
Now, at 37 years old, with a special needs child, no walkability in my neighborhood, and no car (we have one car and he works a lot) to drive to the trails… my son at seven, stopped liking hiking anyway, i find myself stuck in my house. (The last time i took him he literally just layed down in the beginning of the trail and refused to move, its kind of funny now). This also was when hubs was ordering hella food, id get a salad or whatever but fries are just, a god. Anyway
I live a pretty isolated life. I signed up $40/month for a gym with a pool and was swimming last year, but when i only have a one hour window (with the car) to go a day, and the pool schedule being what it was, i stopped going. Excuse? Sure, but i always found it easist to lose weight and exercise when it was baked into my life, and not like, going to the gym, i dont want people to see the fat girl run, even when i was 21 i would run my neighborhood at night so people couldnt see me. But i liked the pool, i just cant get there without a car, which i dont have. My bike is broken, i sont onow how to fix it, and cant afford to, and like i said, you come out my little neighborhood, its immediately highway. I walked with ny son up there one day to try and go somewhere, and someone took a right on red, when we had the crosswalk, and nearly hit us. All you could hear was cars, and smell exhaust- truly aweful pedestrian experience.
Im back on whole foods, but its not really what i eat now, its seditary lifestyle. “So get out there!” One might say, i have highways on two sides of me, and an airport on the other, and a swamp on the otherside. My favorite local grocer is .6 miles from me measured directly through the swamp to the strip mall, you have to take a highway to get there. It’s so frustrating, i would walk. I really would. I struggle to work out on my own, my husband is tall and thin, and hates working out, so im on my own. Thats the hard part.
Im keep eating my veggies and whole foods and continue to work on it, since i turned 32 my goal is to get fit again by 40.
My husband got a sword and i was messing around with it, and realized my arms have gotten weak, so just this week i started doing push ups. Or even just trying to hold myself up in that planking position. I work on my binge eating disorder with my therapist because, being alone in the house, with no friends to invite me anywhere, just readig the Internet some mornings, is enough to say, "I don’t care I’m making nachos for breakfast, it doesnt make dishes, i dont feel like cleaning the god damn cutting board and doing dishes. I do em all by hand, and when you cook from scratch, dishes are… plentiful.
Anyway, i know its the best thing. I remember when i could run without getting winded, the energy i had, I refuse elevators and take the stairs at my therapist office, and i get mad im winded when i reach the top. Got tree work to do this week, idk. It’s not that im lazy, my binge really is just fucking nachos, and about six months ago, i decided, even if im binge nachos, i make a portion half what i used to, and double the jalapenos.
Bought my wife a home bike so that she could do some cardio while I worked. It’s good for the winter, it gets pretty cold here for her. She’s used to Indonesia and in Belgium it gets to 0 to minus 10 degrees in the winter months.
It’s a good option because you can read something while doing that. Basically you can be on the internet.
When you’re more fit, I’d suggest rope skipping. However it can be hard on the joints. It’s very good cardio though. Boxers do it all the time.
You also can buy some kettlebells. I have one of 16 and 20 kg at home, it takes no space at all. I use them for shoulder raises. They can be used for swings which is great cardio.
You can do bodyweight squats. I do 5 sets of 50 on a Sunday when I’m “too lazy” to fix up the weight for deadlift.
In all these years of working out, I quickly made the investment to have a home gym. Not because it’s cheaper in the long term, but because it’s far easier to actually do the workout.
The most difficult part about working out at a gym is getting to the gym. It feels like a drag. Sure, once at the gym it’s all great, but getting there the next time is once again a drag.
About food I don’t know shit though. I consume a lot of calories. Me working out and stuff like that is what I call damage control. I’m a stereotypical Belgian. I eat a lot of fries with mayo and drink strong beer.
Working out, and likely food, is all about mental stuff. Truly it’s half the battle. Need to figure out how to do a routine and keep to it. Like right now I’m going to do barbell rows because it’s Thursday. I don’t even view it as an option, it’s just what my Thursday looks like.
Good luck, getting back into shape is always difficult. But you know that after 2 months you’ll have a lot of energy. Then the trick is to keep working out just to keep that amount of energy.
I want to add, the fist time i binge ate, i was 8 years old. My guardian had a snack draw, full of all the 90s kid corn syrup you could want. We were to pack two for our lunches each day. My guardian was a severe misogynist, and even at 8, i was angry all the fat boys in media were clowns and funny and liked, and the fat girls were basically conveyed as trolls.
I remember hearing “growing boys need to eat”, and at 8(edit maybe i was 10), i thought, im growing too, why cant i eat? And i ate up that snack draw. It was my first protest to “girls should only eat things they look cute eating”.
I like to think if i had a proper mother maybe that wouldnt have happened. But the mother i had, i saw once a month and didnt eat ant veggies, was thin, but meat and potatoes is all she ever ate, water tasted bad to her and she only drank coffee. She was never a big part of my life. But my misogynist guardian was, and thus began my disorder. “Mayo puts hair on your chest; women are weak and stupid, i dont date fat women” ect I would hear and it would piss me off. I got fat, and i was the “daughter” he didnt rape. It protected me, in a way, but ive a mouth and i wish he would have tried, i could have gotten us kids out sooner.
As a teen hed throw fast food at me and call me names while i was confined to my room, not even allowed out by the end, to use the bathroom.
I have c-ptsd, and now at 37 still fucking stuggle with it.
I just wish i could live somewhere walkable, and i miss my 20s when i did live in a place like that.
Your husband could try and get a job in Europe. Here in flanders there’s quite a lot of walkability. They are creating bike lanes. I’m lucky that I can bike to work 15 km without interacting much with cars.
I could suggest Indonesia, for 100k euros you have a nice apartment with access to a gym and swimming pool. But I don’t know about the needs of your child. They don’t really speak English there either, but Bahasa is pretty easy to learn.
Personally I’d go to Batam, Indonesia. Right under Singapore. Live in the center.
For walkability it’s bad there kinda. And hot. Be careful of things like construction work. Can’t really know if it’s all safe.
Please take the time to listen to this lecture. It will genuinely help you and it’s very entertaining imo.
Testosterone causes enforcement, not aggression or dominance of women. Enforcement. Sapolsky did a famous study on baboons about this, amd we also have a human example - Buddhist monks who go around “enforcing” peace by chanting and praying etc.
Men hate women because they believe they should, they abuse women because they give themselves permission to do so. No other reason. Anything else is an excuse and justification for it. Read “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy or “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist” to learn more.
Bigotry is a product of narcissism, which is based in delusional beliefs. A narcissist may never get better. A racial narcissist example is a white supremacist (“my race is best”), which is obviously delusional, which causes narcissistic supply every time they confront it and refuse to let the delusion be corrected. They then will act out, eg say racist slurs, to enforce their racial narcissism on others to satisfy their brain chemistry (it’s deeply uncomfortable to resist unlearning delusional beliefs when faced with evidence, so they satisfy the histamine with adrenaline rushes included by being antisocial).
"Men are statistically more likely to be violent than women, according to various studies and data. This tendency is reflected in higher rates of violent crimes, such as intimate partner violence, murder, assault, and rape, where men are the predominant perpetrators. Several factors contribute to this disparity:
Biological Factors: Evolutionary perspectives suggest that male aggression has been shaped by sexual selection, where men compete more intensely for access to mates. This competition has led to physical characteristics such as larger size and strength, which are associated with greater physical aggressiveness.
Social and Cultural Factors: Social conditioning and societal expectations play a significant role. Men are often encouraged to be aggressive and dominant, while women are typically socialized to be more submissive and passive.
Neurological Differences: Studies using fMRI and EEG have shown differences in brain activity related to aggression. Men tend to have higher amygdala activation during provocation, which is associated with impulsive aggression.
Behavioral Differences: From a young age, boys and girls exhibit different levels of physical aggression. While both genders peak in physical aggressiveness between two and four years old, girls learn to suppress these behaviors more quickly than boys.
Types of Aggression: Men tend to express physical, overt, and direct aggression more frequently, whereas women are more likely to engage in relational and indirect forms of aggression.
These factors combined contribute to the overall higher levels of violence observed in men compared to women."
Narcissism is a scapegoat. Since a narcissist doesn’t know they are a narcissist. So the person can never defend themselves against you calling them a narcissist.
The term has been overused in the past few decades. I would only accept it if a well trained psychologist/psychiatrist would claim it about people. Otherwise, just can’t trust the source.
Everytime some folks talk about racial supremacy… they always talk about white supremacy and call it bad. Then I’d just say something like what about Han supremacy? Then they just act like it doesn’t exist.
All this bullshit can be fun, but there’s a lot of factors at play.
You can’t say it’s all nurture and no nature. The differences are far too big. In Belgium guys and girls are raised together. The same schools, the same families, the same government funding.
Sure there vast differences between the two female CFO’s I’ve worked for. Same for the male employers I’ve worked for. The two that showed signs of aggression were both large people. A woman and a man. They physically had the ability to cause damage on someone else.
My mom was the one doing the reckless driving and my dad drives perfectly. Aggression comes from my mom’s side of the family and level headedness from my dad’s side of the family.
Ah, whatever. It’s far too broad of a subject to be definite about. Too many factors at play
Narcissists can know they are narcissists, it’s just extremely shameful to them to admit it. What they admit or acknowledge is irrelevant though, as the more important thing is to recognize them because it makes them immediately disadvantaged. Narcissts can’t defend themselves because being a narcissist, makes them disadvantaged, because they are delusional. That’s fine if a white supremacist is disadvantaged and can’t defend himself. That’s good. Lol.
I don’t care if you accept it or understand it.
There are other type of racial narcissists besides white supremacists. White supremacists are widely studied because of the KKK and the Holocaust, among others, plus the so obvious not being better thing… It’s a classic example. Stop defending it, it’s obvious you bring up other races so that you, a white supremacist, can engage in your delusions about hating other races and confirm it.
When you’re told that white people aren’t best, it’s irritating you, right? That’s histamine, it helps you learn. Brain is literally releasing it so you can change your mind. You’ve learned to combat this histamine rush with anxiety and adrenaline (the -phobia part of narcissism), and externalizing and confirming your delusions of white people being supreme, so you automatically switch to bashing PoC to create brain connections to solidify the delusion. No one wants to engage with you because you’re sick and misinformed and they don’t want to make it worse by adding to those connections when you need to clean up and prune other connections first.
You can’t say it’s all nurture and no nature
Then take hormones and tell us how different you are. Go live as a woman. No one is stopping you. The fact that agender and multigender and intersex people exist shows that these binaries don’t exist and if there are hormonal and genetic influences on gendered behavior, why does gender expression change over time and in different places? Why aren’t you wearing a white fluffy wig and button up boots? Why don’t you have long hair and a dress like Jesus? Are you a fishing guy, a football guy, a soccer guy, a DnD guy, a rock climbing guy, etc - all different expressions of male gender, right? Why is someone with XY genes and complete androgen insensitivity labeled a girl? What gender is someone with Klinefelter’s (XXY)?
Aggressive behaviors happen because the person doing them has given themselves permission to do so.
Would your mom act as aggressively in front of her boss or someone she wants to impress? Or is she more openly aggressive in front of her family? And many large people actually have a “gentle giant” reputation, it’s just down to whatever that person thinks is an acceptable behavior.
In “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy asks abusers why they didn’t keep going. He says something like, “you punched her and shoved her to the ground, why didn’t you kick her in the face then? You could’ve really gotten her good then.” And the abuser will look genuinely shocked and say, “I would never do THAT, that could seriously kill her or hurt her.” They know. They have control. They would change their behavior if there were witnesses they cared about. They CHOOSE those actions because they give themselves permission.
You are a white supremacist by your own words. Too ashamed to admit it, though, just like I said in my first paragraph.
That’s not what ad hominem is.
Sure, you can be a geographical narcissist (xenophobe) too on top of being a racial narcissist. A lot of narcissists overlap but not always, and that’s why we get unique narcissistic individuals. Physical narcissists, gender narcissists, intellectual narcissists, etc. Many ways they interact.
And then if I spoke with you about something that is neutral and doesn’t trigger your narcissism, like maybe video games, then we’d be okay and we could have a polite conversation. Because narcissism is primarily delusions-based.
Nah I’d prefer being called a European supremacist, can you do that instead? The child in my wife’s uterus is going to be Eurasian.
Now we got the choice between raising it in Europe or in Asia and I prefer Europe. Although it depends on where in these two locations. Belgium Vs Indonesia. My main concern is the heat. The rest is fine, but god damn I want my winters.
Everyone has narcissistic traits, we can just call it self esteem. But only a very small part of the population has Narcissistic personality disorder.
It is 50% genetic 👀 so we’re back to nature/nurture blabla.
My mom did have quite the symptoms of the disorder. Mainly she thought that everyone was envious of her and that anything someone did was just something to affect her.
Now personally I have different symptoms, it doesn’t use other people, it’s mainly self esteem stuff like: I can get sexually turned on by looking in a mirror. I think I’m above average intellectually able. I think I make good decisions. I love talking about the details of my life. (I’m also interested in details of others their lives, most people lack the desire to be transparent). I also like talking about details bout anything to be honest. It’s just that I know a lot of my own life.
Now. Psychologist puts all of that on “mild autism”. Since my dad is autistic.
Now… Call me autist supremacist 😎 literally different brain wiring.
My job is to portray truthful information so that stakeholders can gain insight.
So I enjoy looking at the information you give me and see if it’s correct and if it’s the complete picture.
You’re quite biased toward nurture and give little regard to nature in this subject.
While it’s common knowledge that both are impactful.
Human behaviour. You’ll find speakers that talk more about the nurture part. You’ll find speakers that talk more about the nature part.
You are biased toward the nurture part, so you will align yourself more with speakers that talk about that. While willfully ignoring the other side of the truth.
The video you showed me, god damn… the rambling goes on and on. Do not pay for his lectures, he’s just stretching the hour and giving you no content. Just money money money
This guy (even though you might hate him for being Israeli) is brilliant though. World renowned.
He’s been one of the leading neuroscientists and primate behaviorists in the world for decades now. Its not rambling, it’s information, and your brain is tired of learning. That’s just what learning feels like. Don’t you know that by now? It’ll take you time to learn. And he’s not saying anything about money? He’s talking about his research literally. How sad, our planet really has fallen so far in terms of academic discourse. Genuinely disappointing.
I’mma try that. I’mma sell my services and when a customer isn’t happy about the quality of my services (the fella is literally being paid to teach a certain amount of time), then I’m just going to gaslight the customer that they are the ones at fault.
I gave you a substitute for a far better speaker.
I prefer to listen to his new book Nexus.
Do give me a break, this isn’t my native language. The quality of communication is rather important in order to transfer information into me.
like YouTube free documentary. That’s high quality communication.
He’s not a better speaker on the topic of neurochemistry, though.
No, you’re making up false claims in this language about these things so how about you learn before you say misinfo.
Education is different than communication. Top level academic info isn’t always found in easy little clips. Sometimes it takes effort to understand. Fwiw, Sapolsky has been on Joe Rogan and that meatball was able to understand him and what he said about testosterone so it’s a you thing here
There’s so much information and so little time, on top of that you need to cycle into periods where you consume less information or you’ll just go insane.
So, if you want your information to reach people, do more effort.
They don’t hate women, they just like to dominate.
80% of car accidents here are caused by wreckless driving by guys.
Guys are more dominant, and dominating women is viewed as misogyny.
Do not misunderstand. There’s no hatred for women.
Except in niche cases like my mate that got his heart broken at age 15 when he was fat, then he went on and dated 5 girls at the same time because he didn’t trust them. Then basically kept 1 of them and is now in a long term relationship. The one girl never knowing that he did that.
He was raised by his grandparents/single mother.
His dad went on to have a 2nd family where he wouldn’t be a deadbeat father. So it’s kinda idk… it’s his stuff.
So I guess there can be some hatred for women when it comes to having a broken heart and trust issues. But that’s mostly for young guys.
Hating people is mostly a dumb thing to do, but it’s not always a choice. You get your heart broken, love turns to hate until enough time passes before it can become indifference and you move on.
Racism… 14 year olds are idiots. They segregate themselves by how they look and sound like and start fighting with eachother.
Russia phobia 😎 well, they done fucked up didn’t they?
What else do we have…
Sinophobia… scary government bruv
Western phobia… I’ll let LMs write that one out
Phobia’s a normal thing, gets eliminated by long term communication
As a fat highschooler, ehen, as a fat woman highschooler, i got rejected so many times. Never once did it make me hate and distrust men. Because every person is their own.
Get fit. Just do it. I started working out when I was 17, been doing for 12 years now. Best investment.
I did.
I was big growing up because my guardian literally kept me in my room, threw McDonald’s at me and called me a fat bitch. I was allowed to go to school, and go to my room from age 12-16. When he was arrested i lost 60 pounds, gained it back though. Then when i was 21 i lost 80 pounds in 11 months, i worked hard, rode my bike to work.
Then, I got pregnant at 25. Gained for that- but lost it all fast with nursing and maintained healthy weight until the pandemic. I liked hiking, and riding my bike to work, and ate whole foods, i had, had fast food a whole 3 times since i was 21. … until i was 32. My male coworkers ate bk for lunch every day, they were thin, our work was hard (i lifted and packed approx 2000-3000 pounds of material we made a shift), so i started getting Bk too. And i got fat.
The pandemic hit and my now husband got the unemployment, so he ordered restaurant food nearly 5x a week. I left my job to support my kid. I peaked my weight again.
Now, at 37 years old, with a special needs child, no walkability in my neighborhood, and no car (we have one car and he works a lot) to drive to the trails… my son at seven, stopped liking hiking anyway, i find myself stuck in my house. (The last time i took him he literally just layed down in the beginning of the trail and refused to move, its kind of funny now). This also was when hubs was ordering hella food, id get a salad or whatever but fries are just, a god. Anyway
I live a pretty isolated life. I signed up $40/month for a gym with a pool and was swimming last year, but when i only have a one hour window (with the car) to go a day, and the pool schedule being what it was, i stopped going. Excuse? Sure, but i always found it easist to lose weight and exercise when it was baked into my life, and not like, going to the gym, i dont want people to see the fat girl run, even when i was 21 i would run my neighborhood at night so people couldnt see me. But i liked the pool, i just cant get there without a car, which i dont have. My bike is broken, i sont onow how to fix it, and cant afford to, and like i said, you come out my little neighborhood, its immediately highway. I walked with ny son up there one day to try and go somewhere, and someone took a right on red, when we had the crosswalk, and nearly hit us. All you could hear was cars, and smell exhaust- truly aweful pedestrian experience.
Im back on whole foods, but its not really what i eat now, its seditary lifestyle. “So get out there!” One might say, i have highways on two sides of me, and an airport on the other, and a swamp on the otherside. My favorite local grocer is .6 miles from me measured directly through the swamp to the strip mall, you have to take a highway to get there. It’s so frustrating, i would walk. I really would. I struggle to work out on my own, my husband is tall and thin, and hates working out, so im on my own. Thats the hard part. Im keep eating my veggies and whole foods and continue to work on it, since i turned 32 my goal is to get fit again by 40.
My husband got a sword and i was messing around with it, and realized my arms have gotten weak, so just this week i started doing push ups. Or even just trying to hold myself up in that planking position. I work on my binge eating disorder with my therapist because, being alone in the house, with no friends to invite me anywhere, just readig the Internet some mornings, is enough to say, "I don’t care I’m making nachos for breakfast, it doesnt make dishes, i dont feel like cleaning the god damn cutting board and doing dishes. I do em all by hand, and when you cook from scratch, dishes are… plentiful.
Anyway, i know its the best thing. I remember when i could run without getting winded, the energy i had, I refuse elevators and take the stairs at my therapist office, and i get mad im winded when i reach the top. Got tree work to do this week, idk. It’s not that im lazy, my binge really is just fucking nachos, and about six months ago, i decided, even if im binge nachos, i make a portion half what i used to, and double the jalapenos.
Youre preaching to the choir on this.
Bought my wife a home bike so that she could do some cardio while I worked. It’s good for the winter, it gets pretty cold here for her. She’s used to Indonesia and in Belgium it gets to 0 to minus 10 degrees in the winter months.
It’s a good option because you can read something while doing that. Basically you can be on the internet.
When you’re more fit, I’d suggest rope skipping. However it can be hard on the joints. It’s very good cardio though. Boxers do it all the time.
You also can buy some kettlebells. I have one of 16 and 20 kg at home, it takes no space at all. I use them for shoulder raises. They can be used for swings which is great cardio.
You can do bodyweight squats. I do 5 sets of 50 on a Sunday when I’m “too lazy” to fix up the weight for deadlift.
In all these years of working out, I quickly made the investment to have a home gym. Not because it’s cheaper in the long term, but because it’s far easier to actually do the workout.
The most difficult part about working out at a gym is getting to the gym. It feels like a drag. Sure, once at the gym it’s all great, but getting there the next time is once again a drag.
About food I don’t know shit though. I consume a lot of calories. Me working out and stuff like that is what I call damage control. I’m a stereotypical Belgian. I eat a lot of fries with mayo and drink strong beer.
Working out, and likely food, is all about mental stuff. Truly it’s half the battle. Need to figure out how to do a routine and keep to it. Like right now I’m going to do barbell rows because it’s Thursday. I don’t even view it as an option, it’s just what my Thursday looks like.
Good luck, getting back into shape is always difficult. But you know that after 2 months you’ll have a lot of energy. Then the trick is to keep working out just to keep that amount of energy.
I want to add, the fist time i binge ate, i was 8 years old. My guardian had a snack draw, full of all the 90s kid corn syrup you could want. We were to pack two for our lunches each day. My guardian was a severe misogynist, and even at 8, i was angry all the fat boys in media were clowns and funny and liked, and the fat girls were basically conveyed as trolls.
I remember hearing “growing boys need to eat”, and at 8(edit maybe i was 10), i thought, im growing too, why cant i eat? And i ate up that snack draw. It was my first protest to “girls should only eat things they look cute eating”.
I like to think if i had a proper mother maybe that wouldnt have happened. But the mother i had, i saw once a month and didnt eat ant veggies, was thin, but meat and potatoes is all she ever ate, water tasted bad to her and she only drank coffee. She was never a big part of my life. But my misogynist guardian was, and thus began my disorder. “Mayo puts hair on your chest; women are weak and stupid, i dont date fat women” ect I would hear and it would piss me off. I got fat, and i was the “daughter” he didnt rape. It protected me, in a way, but ive a mouth and i wish he would have tried, i could have gotten us kids out sooner.
As a teen hed throw fast food at me and call me names while i was confined to my room, not even allowed out by the end, to use the bathroom.
I have c-ptsd, and now at 37 still fucking stuggle with it. I just wish i could live somewhere walkable, and i miss my 20s when i did live in a place like that.
Shoulda just killed him to be honest, but oh well
Your husband could try and get a job in Europe. Here in flanders there’s quite a lot of walkability. They are creating bike lanes. I’m lucky that I can bike to work 15 km without interacting much with cars.
I could suggest Indonesia, for 100k euros you have a nice apartment with access to a gym and swimming pool. But I don’t know about the needs of your child. They don’t really speak English there either, but Bahasa is pretty easy to learn.
Personally I’d go to Batam, Indonesia. Right under Singapore. Live in the center.
For walkability it’s bad there kinda. And hot. Be careful of things like construction work. Can’t really know if it’s all safe.
The solution is not moving country. God if it were that easy.
Wrong. Wrong wrong wrong.
https://youtu.be/NNnIGh9g6fA
Please take the time to listen to this lecture. It will genuinely help you and it’s very entertaining imo.
Testosterone causes enforcement, not aggression or dominance of women. Enforcement. Sapolsky did a famous study on baboons about this, amd we also have a human example - Buddhist monks who go around “enforcing” peace by chanting and praying etc.
Men hate women because they believe they should, they abuse women because they give themselves permission to do so. No other reason. Anything else is an excuse and justification for it. Read “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy or “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist” to learn more.
Bigotry is a product of narcissism, which is based in delusional beliefs. A narcissist may never get better. A racial narcissist example is a white supremacist (“my race is best”), which is obviously delusional, which causes narcissistic supply every time they confront it and refuse to let the delusion be corrected. They then will act out, eg say racist slurs, to enforce their racial narcissism on others to satisfy their brain chemistry (it’s deeply uncomfortable to resist unlearning delusional beliefs when faced with evidence, so they satisfy the histamine with adrenaline rushes included by being antisocial).
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"Men are statistically more likely to be violent than women, according to various studies and data. This tendency is reflected in higher rates of violent crimes, such as intimate partner violence, murder, assault, and rape, where men are the predominant perpetrators. Several factors contribute to this disparity:
Biological Factors: Evolutionary perspectives suggest that male aggression has been shaped by sexual selection, where men compete more intensely for access to mates. This competition has led to physical characteristics such as larger size and strength, which are associated with greater physical aggressiveness.
Social and Cultural Factors: Social conditioning and societal expectations play a significant role. Men are often encouraged to be aggressive and dominant, while women are typically socialized to be more submissive and passive.
Neurological Differences: Studies using fMRI and EEG have shown differences in brain activity related to aggression. Men tend to have higher amygdala activation during provocation, which is associated with impulsive aggression.
Behavioral Differences: From a young age, boys and girls exhibit different levels of physical aggression. While both genders peak in physical aggressiveness between two and four years old, girls learn to suppress these behaviors more quickly than boys.
Types of Aggression: Men tend to express physical, overt, and direct aggression more frequently, whereas women are more likely to engage in relational and indirect forms of aggression.
These factors combined contribute to the overall higher levels of violence observed in men compared to women."
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4643362/
https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/men-more-violent.htm
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S187704281200287X
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/behavioral-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnbeh.2018.00081/full
Lol this proves my point, thanks for playing
Who downvoted you lol. But yeah, that’s literally just AI.
I use AI to provide a less biased view whenever I talk about subjects I’m not that experienced in.
Because the last thing I want is to be influenced by an extremist.
Edit:
Now now now now, the best thing is communication and not antagonising one another.
But that do be quite a challenge
Narcissism is a scapegoat. Since a narcissist doesn’t know they are a narcissist. So the person can never defend themselves against you calling them a narcissist.
The term has been overused in the past few decades. I would only accept it if a well trained psychologist/psychiatrist would claim it about people. Otherwise, just can’t trust the source.
Everytime some folks talk about racial supremacy… they always talk about white supremacy and call it bad. Then I’d just say something like what about Han supremacy? Then they just act like it doesn’t exist.
All this bullshit can be fun, but there’s a lot of factors at play.
You can’t say it’s all nurture and no nature. The differences are far too big. In Belgium guys and girls are raised together. The same schools, the same families, the same government funding.
Sure there vast differences between the two female CFO’s I’ve worked for. Same for the male employers I’ve worked for. The two that showed signs of aggression were both large people. A woman and a man. They physically had the ability to cause damage on someone else.
My mom was the one doing the reckless driving and my dad drives perfectly. Aggression comes from my mom’s side of the family and level headedness from my dad’s side of the family.
Ah, whatever. It’s far too broad of a subject to be definite about. Too many factors at play
Narcissists can know they are narcissists, it’s just extremely shameful to them to admit it. What they admit or acknowledge is irrelevant though, as the more important thing is to recognize them because it makes them immediately disadvantaged. Narcissts can’t defend themselves because being a narcissist, makes them disadvantaged, because they are delusional. That’s fine if a white supremacist is disadvantaged and can’t defend himself. That’s good. Lol.
I don’t care if you accept it or understand it.
There are other type of racial narcissists besides white supremacists. White supremacists are widely studied because of the KKK and the Holocaust, among others, plus the so obvious not being better thing… It’s a classic example. Stop defending it, it’s obvious you bring up other races so that you, a white supremacist, can engage in your delusions about hating other races and confirm it.
When you’re told that white people aren’t best, it’s irritating you, right? That’s histamine, it helps you learn. Brain is literally releasing it so you can change your mind. You’ve learned to combat this histamine rush with anxiety and adrenaline (the -phobia part of narcissism), and externalizing and confirming your delusions of white people being supreme, so you automatically switch to bashing PoC to create brain connections to solidify the delusion. No one wants to engage with you because you’re sick and misinformed and they don’t want to make it worse by adding to those connections when you need to clean up and prune other connections first.
Then take hormones and tell us how different you are. Go live as a woman. No one is stopping you. The fact that agender and multigender and intersex people exist shows that these binaries don’t exist and if there are hormonal and genetic influences on gendered behavior, why does gender expression change over time and in different places? Why aren’t you wearing a white fluffy wig and button up boots? Why don’t you have long hair and a dress like Jesus? Are you a fishing guy, a football guy, a soccer guy, a DnD guy, a rock climbing guy, etc - all different expressions of male gender, right? Why is someone with XY genes and complete androgen insensitivity labeled a girl? What gender is someone with Klinefelter’s (XXY)?
Aggressive behaviors happen because the person doing them has given themselves permission to do so.
Would your mom act as aggressively in front of her boss or someone she wants to impress? Or is she more openly aggressive in front of her family? And many large people actually have a “gentle giant” reputation, it’s just down to whatever that person thinks is an acceptable behavior.
In “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy asks abusers why they didn’t keep going. He says something like, “you punched her and shoved her to the ground, why didn’t you kick her in the face then? You could’ve really gotten her good then.” And the abuser will look genuinely shocked and say, “I would never do THAT, that could seriously kill her or hurt her.” They know. They have control. They would change their behavior if there were witnesses they cared about. They CHOOSE those actions because they give themselves permission.
Yeah I can’t take you serious when you call me a white supremacist. When you antagonise people, they won’t care about all that much that you say.
Then you call them a narcissist so that you don’t have to care.
I am not going to experiment with estrogen, I like muscle.
It’s just an ad hominem argumentation. Very low quality
And what kind of ridiculous term is PoC. Trust me, I’m far more anti American than anti Asia/Africa/middle east/south American.
That term just signals me that you’re American, and because of that, I actually start being xenophobic against you. Which is quite fun innit.
When I see dead bodies and it’s said that it’s a russian. Then I won’t care.
Bloody fun thing, the human mind.
You are a white supremacist by your own words. Too ashamed to admit it, though, just like I said in my first paragraph.
That’s not what ad hominem is.
Sure, you can be a geographical narcissist (xenophobe) too on top of being a racial narcissist. A lot of narcissists overlap but not always, and that’s why we get unique narcissistic individuals. Physical narcissists, gender narcissists, intellectual narcissists, etc. Many ways they interact.
And then if I spoke with you about something that is neutral and doesn’t trigger your narcissism, like maybe video games, then we’d be okay and we could have a polite conversation. Because narcissism is primarily delusions-based.
Nah I’d prefer being called a European supremacist, can you do that instead? The child in my wife’s uterus is going to be Eurasian.
Now we got the choice between raising it in Europe or in Asia and I prefer Europe. Although it depends on where in these two locations. Belgium Vs Indonesia. My main concern is the heat. The rest is fine, but god damn I want my winters.
Everyone has narcissistic traits, we can just call it self esteem. But only a very small part of the population has Narcissistic personality disorder.
It is 50% genetic 👀 so we’re back to nature/nurture blabla.
My mom did have quite the symptoms of the disorder. Mainly she thought that everyone was envious of her and that anything someone did was just something to affect her.
Now personally I have different symptoms, it doesn’t use other people, it’s mainly self esteem stuff like: I can get sexually turned on by looking in a mirror. I think I’m above average intellectually able. I think I make good decisions. I love talking about the details of my life. (I’m also interested in details of others their lives, most people lack the desire to be transparent). I also like talking about details bout anything to be honest. It’s just that I know a lot of my own life.
Now. Psychologist puts all of that on “mild autism”. Since my dad is autistic.
Now… Call me autist supremacist 😎 literally different brain wiring.
Self-esteem isn’t the same as narcissism, whatsoever.
It’s not “50%” genetic.
Narcissism is a belief system.
You’re boring.
For now, the main contributing factors to NPD seem to be: Genetics
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9742-narcissistic-personality-disorder
Tsk tsk tsk
I’m curious, what’s your job?
My job is to portray truthful information so that stakeholders can gain insight.
So I enjoy looking at the information you give me and see if it’s correct and if it’s the complete picture.
You’re quite biased toward nurture and give little regard to nature in this subject.
While it’s common knowledge that both are impactful.
Human behaviour. You’ll find speakers that talk more about the nurture part. You’ll find speakers that talk more about the nature part.
You are biased toward the nurture part, so you will align yourself more with speakers that talk about that. While willfully ignoring the other side of the truth.
We all do this.
It’s beautiful
Aight I’ll put it on for an hour on YouTube vanced
Edit:
https://youtu.be/yu2oR1YU64A
This guy is of far higher quality.
The video you showed me, god damn… the rambling goes on and on. Do not pay for his lectures, he’s just stretching the hour and giving you no content. Just money money money
This guy (even though you might hate him for being Israeli) is brilliant though. World renowned.
He’s been one of the leading neuroscientists and primate behaviorists in the world for decades now. Its not rambling, it’s information, and your brain is tired of learning. That’s just what learning feels like. Don’t you know that by now? It’ll take you time to learn. And he’s not saying anything about money? He’s talking about his research literally. How sad, our planet really has fallen so far in terms of academic discourse. Genuinely disappointing.
Nah he’s quite bad at holding my attention unlike Yuval noah harari
How truly sad
You externalize your difficulty with learning on the speaker.
Perhaps don’t speak then about subjects you can’t even learn at an introductory 101 level.
I’mma try that. I’mma sell my services and when a customer isn’t happy about the quality of my services (the fella is literally being paid to teach a certain amount of time), then I’m just going to gaslight the customer that they are the ones at fault.
I gave you a substitute for a far better speaker.
I prefer to listen to his new book Nexus.
Do give me a break, this isn’t my native language. The quality of communication is rather important in order to transfer information into me.
like YouTube free documentary. That’s high quality communication.
He’s not a better speaker on the topic of neurochemistry, though.
No, you’re making up false claims in this language about these things so how about you learn before you say misinfo.
Education is different than communication. Top level academic info isn’t always found in easy little clips. Sometimes it takes effort to understand. Fwiw, Sapolsky has been on Joe Rogan and that meatball was able to understand him and what he said about testosterone so it’s a you thing here
There’s so much information and so little time, on top of that you need to cycle into periods where you consume less information or you’ll just go insane.
So, if you want your information to reach people, do more effort.