My only enemy is adversaries

Yeah I did a tried and it blew up. But triads are like that. They’re really good when they’re good and they’re a disaster when they’re not going well, unless you’re really good at relationship skills.

I’ve been poly most of my adult life and I love it. My biggest advice is to have boundaries, avoid drama, and avoid culty polycules. Also make sure you have you time.

My wife and I both just aren’t cut out for the restriction of monogamy even if we’re only seeing each other at the moment

Oh shit you’re in for a treat. Their music is amazing.

It’s more than just a good name, its also a good band

Wtf‽

Hell yeah we do

It’s a reasonably priced gaming pc designed for couch use and pre loaded with a couch friendly os. As someone who prefers to game from her couch I can totally see myself weighing it if I was in a position to not miss the money and to take advantage of it. Especially if I think of when I did my last major pc upgrade.

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Lol I was allowed to be anything I wanted when I grew up, and if I picked a type of engineering my family would even consider still speaking to me

That’s fair, but I think it’s vital to frame it internally as you suspecting that there are deeper emotions at play here. At the end of the day the person in question is the ultimate authority on their emotions. A lot of so called empaths see all the deeper emotions that they want to see and more or less ignore what they don’t want or expect to see. Furthermore you’re likely rife with false positives.

Like I’m not discounting that people can observe deeper emotions, a good therapist is able to notice them and lead you to them. But people with hypervigilance often are the ones claiming that they’re “empaths” (ie see and instinctively feel other people’s emotions) and these traits can correlate with the behavior described above.

I’m saddened and grateful I’m not the only one here who associates the term with abusers.

There’s reading emotions and then there’s claiming you entirely feel other people’s emotions and are so confident in it that you insist the other person is lying about their feelings.

I associate it deeply with BPD style emotional abuse. Everyone who’s done that form of abuse to me has called themselves an empath. But inevitably, nope, it’s just hypervigilance and projection and don’t I dare correct them on how I’m feeling.

Incidentally I have a cptsd response where I often mask discomfort and fear so it’s especially things like me saying “no” and “I don’t want that” that get disbelieved by these “empaths”

When the government subsidizes the shit out of the alternatives, yes. But also investing in research for better things means you get better things faster.

Norman Rockwell. He did paintings of Americana. This one is about the civic duty to speak up or something

She always reminded us of a vulcan

Does distinguishing country actually matter here?

That last one sounds very “I’m terrified I’m a bad person and need reassurance but also need to try to lighten it”

Yeah he looks like a decent chunk of every bdsm community I’ve known